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Drop the Ego, Pick Up Love!

Writer's picture: Kim JonesKim Jones

Updated: Jan 5


What does the phrase Drop the Ego, Pick Up Love!”™ mean to you? What is the ego, and what is love? These are questions I’ve been reflecting on, especially as I grow older.

A few weeks ago, a dear friend of mine, Jasmine, shared this quote with me: “Drop the Ego, Pick Up Love!” After thinking about it, I found it to be simple but incredibly profound—so much so that I’ve made it my guiding intention for 2025. I don’t just want to understand it better, but I aim to live it out each day.


Here’s how I see it: The ego is your sense of self—the way you view yourself, your thoughts, beliefs, perspective, and the self-critical messages shaped by past experiences. We have about 40,000-60,000 thoughts a day, and studies suggest 80% of them are negative, replaying fears, self-judgments, old thinking patterns, and beliefs. The ego is like a bodyguard, trying to protect you from emotional pain, but in doing so, it often keeps you from living your true, authentic life.


Once we understand how much the subconscious mind influences us, we can consciously rewrite these negative patterns. Instead of self-criticism and limiting beliefs, we can replace them with self-compassion, self-love, self-forgiveness, and positive affirmations. This shift allows us to live more authentically and intentionally, giving us the tools to observe in situations and not absorb, or react, to them. It’s not always easy, but it’s incredibly empowering to realize we do have control, and can change the way we think and feel about ourselves and the relationships we are in.


What if life isn’t about competing with others or trying to “keep up with the Joneses,” but about looking inward to discover who we truly are? What if the goal is to accept and love ourselves, knowing that nothing “out there” is more important than the love that lives within us? Authentic self-love means honoring our boundaries, caring for our own needs, as much as we care for others, and not seeking/depending on the validation from outside sources. Knowing and trusting that you are ENOUGH. You MATTER. Self-love is the foundation of emotional well-being. Only when we truly accept and love ourselves can we connect with others from a place of authenticity.


Love comes in many forms—platonic, familial, romantic, and self-love (which includes self-acceptance, self-care, and healthy self-esteem). But when Jasmine said, “Pick up love,” I believe she was referring to compassionate love (Agape)—the unconditional, selfless love that meets our primal need for connection. It’s a love that asks for nothing in return, expressed through kindness, empathy, and genuine, no strings attached, service to others.


I’m deeply grateful for Jasmine’s wisdom, and I’ve made it my mission to live by it. I am committed to continued healing, learning, and serving others from my loving heart.


My hope for 2025 is to share the SMILE™ approach “Drop the Ego, Pick Up Love!”™ far and wide—a year of embracing and educating the transformational power of self-discovery and grief healing through love.

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